E-Motions: the good, the bad, and the howling 🙃

Hey beautiful people!

This week has been rather testing. I am told there is a new moon, but I don't know if it's fair to blame it all on that poor old fellow. Instead, I'm leaning into the knowledge that right before we move up a level in life, we are tested to make sure we can handle it. Kind of like a video-game. And I feel as though this week had one too many werewolves in it and maybe a little too much howling as well...

I have had at least 2 campervans fall through the cracks in the last week, both of which I thought were sure things at the time. In fact, I am writing this at 9pm on Monday night because I spent all day on the phone today trying to organise the latest van. I just found out at 7pm that it is missing an electrical certification, and that is not something either I, or the insurance companies, really want to f@*% with 🤯

I am feeling ratherrrrr impatient and low about the situation as I had wanted to be on the road travelling by now, but the real upside here is that I know that these feelings are only energy in motion (e-motion) and that they will pass. I can feel this way tonight, have a good sleep, and wake up feeling much fresher in the morning. I also know that I don't need a thousand vans, just the right one to come along at the right time. This wonderful thing call life can change in an instant, and then all of a sudden you find yourself travelling down the right path again, or sometimes a path that leads you to an even better destination than the one you'd hoped for.

Feeling my feelings isn't something I have always felt comfortable with.

Hell, I still struggle with it sometimes. I was raised in an era where it was weak to cry, and appearing too eager was lame. I was scared to show emotions, and thus I suppressed them. The funny thing is, that when we suppress our instinct to howl, scream, or cry, we often suppress all of our emotions. And so, I have been on wonderful tropical holidays, laughed amongst family and friends, received thoughtful amazing presents, witnessed breath-taking sunsets, tickled my baby niece pink... and inside I could only muster a vague sense of happiness. My mind was telling me that I needed to deeply feel all the love and excitement and euphoria of the moment and soak it all in, but it was a logical thought, not a heart-feeling and I worried about it disappearing as soon as the moment was over. These were moments that I wanted desperately to commit to memory so they would be apart of the story of my life one day, but still, I struggled to feel beyond superficiality.

Thankfully, one of my coaches woke me up to the fact that I wasn't allowing myself to feel anything out of fear of judgement, and therefore my subconscious mind had turned off my emotions thinking that it wasn't safe. Our subconscious minds don't really understand the difference between what is real, and what is imagined, and unfortunately most of us have quite vivid imaginings of our anxieties.

What does it look like on a practical level? If a sad song comes on, I let the tears fall. If I feel angry, I allow myself to feel it and then I channel that anger into something (journaling, running, dancing, air-punching etc). If I feel proud and I'm so happy I could cry, then I do. And because I'm in the habit of allowing those emotions to surface without judgement, they only last a few moments. I can feel it, release, it, and return to my usual equilibrium. The real benefit is in the longevity of this experience- the energy passes through as the emotion and my mind processes it there and then. It's not buried deeper down in my subconscious or my body, and I don't erupt with a mess of pent-up feelings at an inopportune moment. Or at the very least, it's nowhere near as common as it used to be 😉

I'm so passionate about this knowledge and how much it has truly, truly changed my entire life. Not just in a personal sense, but also in a professional sense now as well. I have dedicated my days to learning more about mindset and coaching so that I can help others to have those same provoking and life-affirming experiences that I did.

How do I know if I should have a life coach?

Working with me is for you, if:

• You feel like you're just going through the motions every day and constantly counting down for the weekend or the holidays

• Monday-itis is catching all of the other days of your week and you can't wait to do x, y, z - but when you get there you're too exhausted to even enjoy it.

• You feel as though there must be more to life, but you're not sure what it is or how to even start looking for it.

• You have found yourself in a really emotional moment, but felt completely disconnected from it. Almost like you were watching from the outside looking in. You desperately want to feel it and soak it up, but there's something holding you back.

• You're not sure what your next life move is, but you'd like to change it up.

• You feel a little at odds with your family, your partner, your kids, your friends. You sometimes have snarky thoughts and wonder how they get to be so lucky, while you miss out time and time again.

• You've fallen out of love with your job- there's some indefinable frustration gnawing at your insides whenever you think about it and the stress and overwhelm are starting to drown you.

OR

• You have a pretty good balance in life, but there are some big goals that just seem out of reach no matter how much you want them! Think gym/ fitness, wealth/ investments, travel/ holidays, new job/ side-hustle, relationships/ friendships

• You are driven and need somebody to help keep you accountable or to listen to your big ideas from an objective space

• You're really interested in learning more about how your subconscious mind is dictating the actions and habits that you follow every day, and how you can reprogram it for more success in life.

• You want to stop making excuses and take responsibility for yourself and where you are in life!
  

If you've ever tried to build a better habit or daily schedule for yourself, tried to develop your character, or improve a relationship and failed, then know that you're not alone. You can read all of the self-help books and listen to all the motivational podcasts, but unless you're able to apply that new knowledge to your own life, then you'll just burn yourself out with overwhelm and stress wondering why it's not working. Learning on its own is just acquiring of knowledge- development requires action, and often action can only be accomplished by radical change.

Let me be the radical change that you need to start this new chapter of your life. I still have an opening for you. Sign up for a free 30-minute discovery call, and then get two FREE 60-minute coaching sessions with me as well. If you've ever been curious about life coaching, mindset work, or what you could achieve with a bit of help, then this offer is for you.

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Reach out with any questions, or if you just want to have a chat or share a vulnerable moment with me. In fact, do me a favour and try it out this week- let your emotions rise up and allow them to flow through you without judgement.

Until next week ✨

Haley 🤍