📞2025 is calling you: work *with* 'that girl' energy...

Full confession ahead babe 🫣

I used to roll my eyes whenever somebody mentioned being 'feminine' or even the term of 'energy'... so how the f*ck did I become a feminine empowerment coach?!

For years, I was the go-to girl. You know her, she's that girl who:

🙋🏻‍♀️Everybody calls on for advice

🙋🏻‍♀️Everyone relies on to get shit done perfectly the first time

🙋🏻‍♀️Would help everyone check x, y, z off their to-do list and motivate them

🙋🏻‍♀️Helped tutor friends and family and write resumes and prep for interviews

🙋🏻‍♀️Had the energy to get everyone else up dancing and singing

🙋🏻‍♀️Would be there at 2am for post-breakup drinks, and 12pm I need an escape from the kids lunch, and the 3pm team meeting to handle the conflict between colleagues

🙋🏻‍♀️Always, always looked good, felt good to be around, and had it all together.

I was that girl. In every job, in every class, in every friendship, in every family relationship, and in every setting, I was that girl.

Until it didn't.

Because after I helped everyone else, I was alone and desperately sad because it felt like nobody else cared enough about to me to just know that I also needed help and support and love.

But to ask for help would have been shameful; a guilty admission of my weakness, of my loss of control, of my ability to help other women because if I needed help that meant I didn't have it all together, and that might mean that others don't trust me to help them... and what would that mean about me? About my value? About how others, and how I saw myself, and my role in this world?

This is a heavy burden to carry around. I'm sharing this now because I know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. It's in the conversations I'm having with friends, family, clients and my DMs.

It's in the conversations I'm hearing from women from all over Australia, as more than 50 of us converged on Sydney last night to hear one of my favourite mentors speak about the very real emotional burden of women in the 21st century.

I know that this is the message you needed to hear today. 

All emotions are energy-in-motion (e-motion) and have an energetic frequency. The energetic frequency of shame, fear, or guilt is about as low on the scale as it gets... (Google 'Hawkins Scale of Consciousness' for more on this!)

Which in layman's terms is the heaviness that you feel aching in your heart as you read this and feel it resonating so deeply.

Here are some key things that you need to know before I go any further into harnessing 'that girl' energy for your best year yet:

1. When I talk about the feminine, I'm not referring to how you dress, what you look like, what hobbies you enjoy, your status as a wife or mother, your identified gender, or any of that other superficial garbage that most people think of.

    

2.  I'm talking about the two energies that are in every single human being on this planet: the masculine energy which is your right side logic, action, discernment and drive, and the feminine which is your nurturing left side, your intuition, magnetism, and presence.

    

3. We grew up in a masculine society: it values logic, action-taking, drive, and purpose, while simultaneously belittling feminine traits like creativity, sensuality, and compassion as a weakness or laziness.

    

4. And unless you had super aware parents, you most likely grew up in a household that prioritised independence, action and achievement, and devalued emotional intelligence, authentic conversations, and intuitive wisdom. I have noticed this trend particularly in Australian culture where girls and feelings are perceived as weaker, but I have clients in the US and in Europe who are also struggling with this balance of masculine and feminine energies.

This is a collective issue that the globe is facing right now, and you're going to be seeing a lot more about wellbeing, development, and energetic polarity as more people wake up and become aware of their lack of balance and emotional intelligence.

We are stuck in this energy of constantly having to prove ourselves with achievements and helping others in order to feel worthy, valuable, and loved. But it always feels like there is something missing, something more that you could be doing.

This is caused by an imbalance in your masculine and feminine energies.

When we live too much in one energetic state, there is a lack of polarity. Too much drive and productivity can, actually, be harmful...

A Women's Agenda survey reported that 77% of Australian women experienced burnout in 2023.

You're just feeling blocked from your natural, instinctive feminine nature because you're living in a man's world and they're constantly telling you that you need to fit in and conform to feel valued.

 Why am I telling you all of this?

Firstly, I want to validate the way you feel right now and make sure you know that it is totally normal.

Secondly, I want to reassure you that just because something is 'normal', does not mean it's right for us, or that we need to continue conforming to it.

Thirdly, I want you to know that there's an alternative way of being out there, and it starts with you connecting more deeply with yourself, your feelings, your values, and what you actually want your life to feel like on a daily basis.

This seems simple, and it is. But it's not easy. Those two things can be true at the same time.

You have to want it. You have to be SO fed up with you're currently feeling that you're willing to do something about it.

But you're 'that girl': the one who can do anything she wants when she sets her mind to it. The girl with the big feelings and the day dreams and the intuitive nudge that there's something 'more' out there for you.

In 2025, we're stepping into a new era of that girl energy. Nothing is off limits.

We're embracing balance, polarity, sexuality, feeling, being, doing, emotional intelligence, self- responsibility, purpose and passion.

Because when you do the work and understand the core motivation behind 'that girl' energy, you can start to harness it and work with it, instead of always trying to work FOR it.

Buckle up and find your courage babe, because 2025 is your year 😘

Haley 🤍